Why I Feel Our Move to the Philippines Was Right

flight back to manila

As regular readers of Philippine know, I recently visited the United States after a five year absence, to visit my Dad in Las Vegas. Sin City is about the worst place in America to get a realistic balanced view of the US, especially for a guy like myself that spent most of his life in the Midwest, Central Illinois, but after the recent trip to America, this post will attempt to explain why I feel our move to the Philippines was the right decision.

the flight to America


Everyone is different. No one person has the same desires, needs, ambitions and appetites. If we did we all would be robots but we were given a Free Will upon our birth. But unequivocally,  in my heart, soul and mind, I know that my asawa and I made the correct call.

Now when I say “my asawa and I made the correct call, ” I should point out that my dear, loving wife is the one that made the biggest sacrifice in moving to the Philippines. My spouse had already spent nine years in America with me and had made many dear Filipino friends. She had a thriving daycare business in our home and loved to go shopping every Saturday with her buddies. She had become “Americanized.”

My asawa would have been extremely content to remain in the “land of the free and the home of the brave” for the rest of her life. But after my retirement from AT&T at the age of 57 I asked her if she would want to remain in the States where we both would have to continue to work or would she rather move to the Philippines.

Her answer: “The Philippines. I will go wherever you go.” I love my unselfish wife. 

The Kano and my lovely asawa


There have been times during the past five years where I had doubted myself and expressed those uncertainties to my better half. “We’re already here,” she would answer. She adapted to life in the province again quite quickly and has worked hard every single day. The burden of now caring for her 83-year-old Father, now in the Sixth Stage of Alzheimer’s, has only added to her workload. But she forges ahead, never complaining, unlike her old geezer of a husband.

There was no single event during my trip to the States, no sudden epiphany or message from God that made me realize that retiring to the Philippines was a smart decision but only a peace of mind, a self-realization, that cannot easily be expressed in words.


the Las Vegas selfie

Sometime you have to take a “selfie” of your soul and look within


Now with the building of our new home to commence in a few weeks and the purchase of our first vehicle coming up, life is getting even better in “paradise.” If I could only get my father-in-law to stop talking to dead relatives everything would be almost perfect. But I’m reminded that even Paul the Apostle had his own “thorn in the flesh” and I suppose Lolo, though I know he can’t help it, will be mine. But family comes first in the Philippines and once we get that new nipa hut built for Lolo, many, many meters from the new house, I doubt that I will hear Lolo speaking to dead people quite as much anymore. I hope.


Author: The Kano

POST AUTHOR: "THE KANO" aka "THE CRUSTY OLD EXPAT." Dave DeWall, "The Kano", is the Publisher & Editor-in-Chief of "Philippines Plus" in publication since August 2009. He is also the CEO of Lizard Poop Productions and author of the best-selling guide book "The Philippines Expat Advisor." Dave moved to the Philippines in July 2009 from Central Illinois with his lovely wife of over 19 years, "The Sainted Patient Wife." The couple reside in a rural province in Western Visayas, Guimaras. The small island province is said to have the sweetest mangoes in the world. They do not have any children but are the proud owners of eight active canines, including a Belgian Shepherd called "Killer" "Killer" has bitten five people in the last two years along with one goat and a carabao. "Killer" doesn't like strangers. Or goats. Or carabaos.

7 thoughts on “Why I Feel Our Move to the Philippines Was Right

  1. Dave your thoughts here parallel mine in many ways (a bit scary, I know) I just bought a stateside home but I’m still moving forward on my Guimaras house. I realize now where I live isn’t as important as who I live with. You know Len Len said the same thing Melinda did. “I will go wherever you go” We are a couple of very lucky men.
    God bless America, our island in the sun and the most understanding, beautiful women in the world!
    T Cat

    1. Tom Cat, your many friends on the island are anxiously awaiting your return. We indeed, are two very fortunate men; I’m glad Melinda has a ton of patience.

      The nipa hut on the new property will be built next month. My computer whiz on the island says that we should be able to get an internet signal at our new location. All systems are go! The lease on The Farm is extended for another year. We’ll have a place for you to stay until your new digs on the island are built.

  2. My american husband find your blog pretty interesting. He is thinking moving to Philippines once he retired. We both looking forward to it. 🙂

    1. Thanks, Joy. I appreciate the support. Well, I’ve been in the Philippines over five years now, along with my patient Filipina wife, and highly recommend moving to the Philippines. One can live quite comfortably here and in relatively safety, if you follow some common sense rules.

  3. Dave,
    We are indeed lucky to have patient, understanding asawas. I don’t know where i’d be without Anne. Won’t be long for construction of your house, hopefully all goes smoothly. Looking forward to Tom Cat’s return here. Hopefully sooner than later.

    1. Yes, we both are a couple of pretty fortunate guys, Papa Duck. We’ll have to invite Anne and you over to the new house when it is finished. Maybe by that time The Tom Cat will be back in paradise. Let’s hope. 😉

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