I Want to Hire a Cute Filipina Maid!

Cute Filipina Maid

I had to admit to my wife this past Friday that she was right. This is something that I do like to do, but the fact was my asawa was absolutely, 100% correct, and there was nothing I could do to wiggle out of this situation. In just a little over 11 years of marriage (check out “How I Met The Sainted Patient Wife,” a love story for Valentine’s Day) my wife has only admitted to me ONCE that I was right.  Despite my status as “King Kano” of “The Compound,to acknowledge I had made an error in judgment was a bitter, bitter pill to swallow. Oh, how I hate that phrase that has haunted husbands throughout the centuries: “I told you so!”

It started a few weeks ago. I had good intentions. Wanting to relieve my wife of her weekly cleaning of our CR, Comfort Room (bathroom) I had spoken to our 13-year-old niece, Shaina, who lives at our home in Guimaras, that I wanted her to take over the CR duty in addition to her additional chores of washing dishes, sweeping the floors, and cooking rice in the morning.

I had suggested this to my wife many months ago, but she did not want our niece to do the cleaning since she felt Shaina could not do a good enough job and was not responsible. My asawa gets down on her hands and knees to scrub the bathroom floor, and she is extremely particular as to how it is cleaned. It takes her hours every Saturday to complete this task, as I quietly “work” on this website, not saying a word, since my sainted wife is understandably not in the best of moods when  she is the only one doing actual manual labor in the vicinity.

So I bypassed my asawa on this matter entirely (a dangerous thing to do when married to a hot-tempered Filipina that carries a sharp bolo), but I felt it was time for Shaina to take on more duties. Since our niece’s mother, Marjorie, who was our maid for a short time,  currently works in Kuwait, and our twin nieces, April and Michelle, had gone to Manila last year to be with their own mother and go to college, our resident child labor force has been severely depleted.  I had even suggested hiring a maid after her sister Marjorie left.

The photo at the top is the type of maid I had in mind.  The more elderly lady photo’s portrayed below is someone my wife would be prone to hire. I have no idea why. But my asawa said she could do the cleaning with the help of Shaina and her brother Sharwin who also lives at “The Compound,” so my dream of hiring a cute Filipina maid was shattered at this time.Portrait of an Old Woman working in Rice Fields - Philippines, Bagabag

So I decide to bribe ask, Shaina, to clean the CR and in return I would give her my old cell phone ( I had a new Samsung Champ from Smart Bro) which only showed a partial screen half the time and had a missing send button, but I told her I would throw in a P200 Smart Buddy load (4.58 US Dollars) every month.  I advised her that I wouldn’t be able to get the load until a couple of weeks, and I would see how she would with the extra responsibility. My niece eagerly agreed to the deal, what 13-year-old anywhere in the world wouldn’t jump at the chance to have a cell phone (albeit a used one) plus a monthly load where she could text all of her fellow giggly girlfriends? I told my wife the deal I had arranged. She told be that Shaina is not responsible and that I shouldn’t give her my old cell phone. I said I believe she IS responsible, and let’s give her a chance.

My niece cleans our CR that week, and after a review from her tita (aunt) and some additional cleaning, the first week’s grim task is done. Next Saturday the second cleaning is pulled off but still not to my wife’s liking, but she knows I am firm on letting Shaina do this. The third week goes by, and it’s a big week as my niece will now get her promised P200 Smart Buddy  load  this Saturday when my wife and I make our monthly pilgrimage to Iloilo to do our grocery shopping. 

I’m feeling pretty smug at this point. I think our niece is doing a great job. She still has my old cell phone and keeps it charged. Her friends text her daily, and I know she is anxious to text them back. There’s probably a lot happening in a 13-year-old teenage girl’s world, most of which I do want to know anything about. They probably just exchange text messages about Justin Bieber anyway.

Ahh, yes, my plan is working well despite my wife’s belief that our niece was not responsible enough. But how things can radically change and turn on a guy! Tomorrow the conclusion to this story, and why I had to grudgingly admit my wife was right!

Author: The Kano

POST AUTHOR: "THE KANO" aka "THE CRUSTY OLD EXPAT." Dave DeWall, "The Kano", is the Publisher & Editor-in-Chief of "Philippines Plus" in publication since August 2009. He is also the CEO of Lizard Poop Productions and author of the best-selling guide book "The Philippines Expat Advisor." Dave moved to the Philippines in July 2009 from Central Illinois with his lovely wife of over 19 years, "The Sainted Patient Wife." The couple reside in a rural province in Western Visayas, Guimaras. The small island province is said to have the sweetest mangoes in the world. They do not have any children but are the proud owners of eight active canines, including a Belgian Shepherd called "Killer" "Killer" has bitten five people in the last two years along with one goat and a carabao. "Killer" doesn't like strangers. Or goats. Or carabaos.

50 thoughts on “I Want to Hire a Cute Filipina Maid!

    1. I’ve only been right ONE time in 11 years of marriage to my Filipina wife, Dan. Since my American wife threw me out of the house after nine months, I didn’t have a chance to see if I could ever be right.

  1. Oh..also I do not think many wifes there would approve of the top maid and not sure many would of the bottom maid…reason the top one is 2 sexy…..and the bottom one looks like she’s ready for the rocking chair…

      1. hahahah Dave………Your Lovley Wife would along with her Mother take their bolos..one in each hand and well…..that would be the last of Dave…if you put a maid in your house like the weather forcaster lady.

  2. Well after being married about 5 weeeks to Meriam I knew we needed a maid. I mean “Why is my wife so tired?” Meriam is a hard worker and she wanter to “serve” her husband. I knew we were getting a maid when Meriam stood up on Wednesday Night prayer meeting and told everyone that serving her new husband wasn’t a burden. HA! So we checked around and her sister Chris Joy had a friend in CDO that just fit the bill.

    For me to have Jhona around is a joy. How much do we pay her? We are paying to send her to college so she can be a high school math teacher. She is the first in her family to attend college. That is why it is a joy for me to have her around.

    Does she make Meriam happy? Not all the time. Meriam wants everything just perfect. Jhona doesn’t do “perfect.” Yikes! Sometimes I am the peace maker.

    So Dave, I am waiting for you to tell the “rest of the story>’ I think I know the ending. 🙂

    All the best,

    1. Good for you, Gary, you’re helping a person in need and your asawa. You can’t beat that combination. The going rate for maids in our rural Guimaras is around P2,000 or P2,500 a month. I’m sure many of my readers such as you have already guessed how the story ends. As soon as I get more comments caught up, I’m going to be working on it.

  3. Hi Dave,

    My beautiful asawa (MBA) companion and helper in Baybay was her sister-in-law Luz. Both MBA and Luz are hard workers. I got home to the USA from 1 visit and Luz had ironed my clothes including my t-shirts, socks and underwear.

    When I retire, I will get either a family member or gay to help. I think there would be trouble with MBA (even though I would be innocent) if I suggested we hired the person in the first picture.

    1. I think you have a good plan, Jack. There is NO WAY in the world my wife would allow me to hire someone like the cute Filipina in the photo. We might hire a relative in the future, but it proved to be nothing but problems for us when that relative was one of my wife’s sisters. My wife had difficulty giving her sister “orders” and instructions.

      1. My wife usually doesn’t have any problems giving out any orders either, John. The nieces and nephews here tremble (along with me) when she barks gives out an order. I don’t why she had a problem with her younger sister, Marjorie, that worked with us, but I definitely would not hire one of her sibling’s as a maid again.

  4. Hi Dave,
    When I first moved to the Philippines my household included Me, my wife, my son, his GF from the US, my sister in law Welly, My sister in law Inday, and Inday’s 2 month old son. Inday’s husband had a house on his mother’s land and was raising pigs for me there. Inday was working at a local supermarket and Welly helpped in the house and took care of the kids. This worked for a while until Welly got tired of watching the baby all the time and Inday was not paying her. Then Inday quit her job and I oaid her to clean the house (and watch her own child). While kinda stupid on my part it freed up my wife to do things with me since she had assumed all Welly’s jobs while the mother of the baby was working and doing almost nothing else. Now my son is on his own, the GF moved back to the US, Inday and her husband live on my farm and have another baby, Welly moved back in with us, but we will move to the farm in 2 weeks and then she will live with another sister in the city. We also have a 7 year old neice living with us who helps do the housework and does a pretty good job most of the time.
    Richard D

    1. Wow! And I thought I had a lot of relatives living with us at “The Compound,” Richard. I hope anyone reading these comments who is not married to a Filipina understands that when you marry your asawa you essentially “marry” the family, too. Filipinos are fiercely loyal to their families and will do pretty much anything to help them. Once married, they expect you to do the same. Sounds like you are coping with everything pretty well, though.

  5. First things first: Dave, where did you get the photo of Meriam’s helper Jhona?? Well she really doesn’t dress like that. French maid, always did like those outfits.

    Good luck on your move Richard. Enjoy your life here. Life is too short not to.

    Back in the States kids are taught the value of PLAY. I don’t think that is working out too well. I see some families here in the Philippines that the children are working at home. WORK doesn’t hurt anyone. Just as long as it isn’t grown up work. 16 hours in the factory isn’t for children but chores around the house or farm will last them a lifetime.


    1. Most of my pictures, Gary, are courtesy of Flickr. I honestly was looking for a somewhat skimpier outfit, but this was the best one I could find that would fit my story. I think there is absolutely too much emphasis on “play” back in the States, and it sure didn’t me hurt growing up as a kid to have chores to do. I think it’s important for our nieces and nephews at “The Compound” to have daily chores and responsibilities because I think it does build character.

  6. Two Simple Rules for a happy household in the Philippines:

    Rule One. My dear wife is the one and only supervisor and arbiter of household tasks, especially ‘hired help’. No exceptions. (I learned this the hard way by merely asking the best maid we used to have to clean some dirt she had missed under the dish drainer on the kitchen counter. I should have a., mentioned it my wife or b., cleaned it myself. I do not deal with household help any longer, period.

    Rule Two. In case of doubt. always refer to Rule One.

    1. Great advice, Dave. I’ll remember those two simple rules when we do hire a maid in a few years when we get to the Mega Manila area. I will ABSOLUTELY follow your rules to the letter!

    2. Hi Dave,
      My wife always instructs the help because with the exception of Inday and Carlo, they don’t speak english and I don’t speak enough Bisaya. Problem solved.

  7. Rule Number 3: When the helper is upstairs, go downstairs. When the helper is downstairs, go upstairs. One story house? Cold shower!

    Hey guys and gals, anymore rules?

    1. Hmmm, I’ll keep your Rule Number 3 in mind , Gary, when we make our move to the Manila area in a few years. We’re planning a two story house because my wife is planning to have more relatives live with us. Just want I wanted.

            1. I definitely want to keep some distance from the relatives, Lance. I’ve got a few years to do some more research. Hopefully, we can find a place that will be a good compromise for both of us. She does want bigger shopping malls, which I don’t blame her. It’s a pain hauling our groceries on the pump boat every month, and it would be great to have a bigger mall nearby. But of course a bigger mall means more people and more traffic.

            1. Both places look nice, Lance, but Dumaguete looks more promising with its close proximity to Cebu which would offer us some more shopping options. Dumaguete has about the same population of 116,000 as Springfield, Illinois, where I worked at back in the States.

          1. Dave, Valencia is only 10-15 minutes from Dumaguete I believe. It is at a higher altitude and cooler, but lacks the nice waterfront that Dumaguete has. Valencia is smaller but there are a number of good universities and hospitals in Dumaguete. Lots of foreigners in both due to the friendly population (Dumaguete is called the City of the Gentle People), dive sites and it’s ferry to Cebu. I will visit both on my next trip.

            1. Thanks, Lance, I thought Valencia was smaller, but Dumaguete definitely has some possibilities. After I get my Permanent Visa cared for this May, I’m sure I could talk my wife into visiting there for a couple of days.

      1. So Dave……if u move to Manila and build a house then you sell your house in the compound? I mean sounds like you would be taking every body there with you to the big city…….or maybe you could keep that one for a weekend get away kind of place? Sounds like Your Wife has some pretty big ideas a there!

        1. The house at “The Compound” would be turned over to my brother-in-law and my wife’s sister along with their three kids. They currently live in the nipa hut in our front yard.
          I do not want to take ANYONE with us, but my wife says her Mom will go with us. I have already advised my brother-in-laws and sister-in-laws last year when we visited Manila, that when we do make our move, I want my mother-in-law to visit some of their homes for weeks and months at a time. Even years at a time would be fine for me.

          1. Dave, just offer to pay a high monthly allowance to whichever relative takes in your mother-in-law and they will be fighting over which one gets her.

    1. Jack, if it was up to me, I would move to Iloilo City. It has some decent hospitals nearby and big enough shopping malls for me. However, my wife wants to move to the Novaliches area in Metro Manila to be closer to her other brothers and sisters that live in the area. I want to be as far away from Manila as possible, and hate all the pollution and traffic. We’ll have to see how it works out.

      1. Dave,

        I guess I am lucky. MBA and I are in complete agreement on where we want to live. Baybay Leyte is a perfect place to retire. Manila is OK to visit but I would be hating life if I had to live there. Wouldn’t the Sainted Patient Wife consider your feelings with a major decision on where to live?

        1. Dave,

          I just read the posting between Lance and you. I know that I will have a similar problem with brothers and sisters with 1 or 2 living with us. A family needs balance if it is going to survive. There will definitely be ground rules if they want to move in with us.

          1. Absolutely need some ground rules, Jack. And you have to stick to them. First and foremost, taking care of my wife and I, along with my wife’s mother, are my top priorities. We support a niece and nephew and help out my wife’s sister and kids in the nipa hut in the front yard, but I would like to see more members of the family step up and help.

        2. Yes, Jack, if I really didn’t want to make the move to the Manila area, my wife wouldn’t go. Here’s my main consideration for thinking of making the move. I’m 13 years older than my wife. The next home we build will doubtless be our last one. I want to make sure she has plenty of trusted relatives that will take care of her when I pass on. I want her to have large shopping areas and good hospitals close by. Though I’m not planning to leave this world soon, there’s no guarantees.

  8. Quite unusual for Lita to not have any siblings, John. My asawa had nine others in her family, 4 brothers, 5 sisters. And only one that takes care of their mother, and that’s my wife.

    1. Thanks, I’ve added your website to my list of recommended blogs, SHFM. Looks like you have quite a unique perspective on things that my readers would enjoy checking out. I notice on your profile that you are located in Turkey at this time. My own asawa was employed for many years in Singapore and Taiwan as a nanny/caretaker/domestic helper before we were married. If you ever would like to do a guest post and of course publicize your blog, I would be more than happy to post it. Just send me an email on my contact page. Salamat po!

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